Often we talk about past experiences, current challenges, and future plans. We grow anxious about something that happened a long time ago and we spend a lot of time planning for the future events. Learning from experiences is priceless and preparing for the future is crucial. However, many of us forget what is happening right in front of us at the moment, now.
One thing is for sure, noone can bring back the time that has passed already. We frequently hear from our elderly family members and friends that children grow so fast and one they we will look and see them going to college. Then we will ask the same question: Where have the years gone by? How did he or she grow so fast?
It is important to take the time and focus on the moment we are in. We should stop in the now and become aware of what is happening. If your child is telling you something about his day, stop and listen. Have eye contact and show your interest in what he is telling you about. Make the best of family dinner as much as you can. Yes, this means “no electronics”. Share the highs and lows of your day and make sure everyone gets to speak. Do not ignore the importance of bedtime stories. Even if it is just for 10 minutes each night, it is 70 minutes a week you have uninterrrupted, just for you and your always will be baby. Watch him sleeping for a couple of minutes, take it all in knowing one day the bird will fly away from the nest. Show up at the basketball practice, cheer at the soccer game, make time for parent- teacher conference. After all, these are the ways you will create lasting memories with and for your child.
Be present in the moment. Cherish these memorable times and allow yourself and your child the opportunity to connect, strenghten your bond and share the life in its true meaning. Everything else will take care of itself. Everything else will always be there waiting for you.